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Our Biggest Problem

The biggest problem. It’s huge. What could it be? What do you think it is? There are a myriad of typical answers.

Money is a popular one for many people. “If I only had more money, I’d be able to do this and this and this and that! I’d be able to make my dream of doing this thing come true!”

Time is another common answer. People are obsessed with having enough time to make their dream come true. Mostly people complain about not having enough time. Busy, busy, busy is what we hear.

Another answer is connections. People use the excuse of not having the right connections, the right relationships, to make their dream come true. “If I could become friends with so-and-so, or have coffee with that person, then I’d be able to get this idea moving.”

I don’t want to fully discount any of these three answers, because they all have at least a little validity, but ultimately none of these hold the key.

Photo credit Libby Norcross http://considerthisthought.tumblr.com/

Photo credit Libby Norcross http://considerthisthought.tumblr.com/

What is our biggest problem? What is the “big thing” holding us back from having a great life? What is holding us back from being a success? What is holding us back from fulfilling “The Dream”?

The answer is simple.

What is holding you back? What is holding me back? What is our biggest problem?

Me. You. Us.

Robert D. Smith in his book 20,000 Days and Counting, explains the problem AND the solution very well.

In his book, he explains that one idea can change everything. One very simple idea.

“Become your own problem. Yes, you read that right! This may be tough for you perfectionists, but stay with me. Start thinking, I am the problem. I am the problem. I am the problem. When you do that, you take the outside circumstances and bring the inside. Suddenly, you have power.” (p.61)

You aren’t the victim! You are the solution!

Here’s a sentence I wrote in my notes while reading the book: “If I am the problem, I have the power and control over the problem. Victims are powerless. BEING the problem is empowering!”

I’ve been stuck on this for two years. I had a victim mentality. I thought I would make a great and glorious breakthrough if only those pesky problems would resolve.

I was thinking all wrong. I’m the problem. I’m the problem. I’m the problem.

My current “Big Problem” is getting out of bed early enough in the morning to make use of a couple of hours to read, write, pray, and read the Bible. I’m struggling. I like my pillow. A lot.

And while there are many great plans and suggestions out there to help me solve this problem, deep down I know the answer. I know the answer to the problem because I am the problem.

It’s time to stop being our own biggest problem. It’s time to understand you have a very personal relationship with the problem. Who better to solve the problem than the person with the very best knowledge of the problem?

See? Simple. I am the problem.

What is your problem? What excuses are you telling yourself? What are you going to do about it?

A Renewed Directon

For the past two years I’ve been searching and looking and hunting high and low.

I’ve turned over hundreds of rocks. I’ve read dozens of books. I’ve listened to podcasts, taken online courses, attended conferences, and talked to hundreds of people. I’ve prayed, cried, screamed, gone silent, and sometimes simply existed. I’ve had moments of apparent discovery, and moments of complete confusion. I’ve stalled many times.

And now…it is time to move forward.

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It is time to claim my calling and narrow my focus.

The one overriding theme from the past two years has been my desire to pour into people. The big question struggling to be answered has been, “What people?”

To speak to a general audience sounds great. Surely everyone wants to hear want I have to say. Surely God has given me a message to bring to EVERYONE.

But, I’ve always felt pulled to a specific audience.

I’m 44 years old.

I’ve been married for over 21 years.

My sons are 16 and 18.

I’ve written a few times about the huge regret I have for missing out on many things over the last couple of decades.

I’ve written about my struggle with depression.

Now is the time for me to write and speak to a more specific audience.

No more “poor me” writing. (A good friend of mine calls it “Eeyore writing”.)

Starting today my focus will be on pouring into those men behind me in life.

The men I’m longing to speak to may be married. They may have young children. They may be in their late teens and looking for whatever is “next” for them.

My intent going forward will be to pour into men who are like I was 10-25 years ago.

I will certainly use the lessons I learned.

I will certainly use my failures and successes to form my message.

But, I will not dwell on the pain and deep wounds inflicted on me. I will use the memories and stories of those events to help steer men through the maze of life.

I have a trusted team of advisers I lean on daily. They act as my personal Board of Directors. They will hold me accountable. They will help direct my personal path as I look to direct others.

They will help me develop this blog, books, devotionals, speeches, and many other avenues to share my message.

The Chairman of the Board for my life is my Heavenly Father. All of this begins and ends with him. Through daily prayer, daily reading of the Bible, and constant conversation with God, I will move forward with what he has placed on my heart.

In the next few weeks I’ll share more of the ideas I’m developing and changes I’m planning. Please stayed tuned! And please offer ideas!

I look forward to sharing this journey with everyone. Please invite your friends and family to join.