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I’m A Man – Society’s Opinion (part 2)

After reading the post about Society’s Opinion of men (I’m A Man Society’s Opinion), a few people commented (online and offline) that the image of a man portrayed on T.V. sitcoms is horrible. I agree. Many sitcoms portray the dad in the show as a bumbling idiot.

Here are a few to consider:
Homer Simpson                             Al Bundy

Peter Griffin

Pick any show on Disney Channel (Seriously). Let’s use the show “Dog With A Blog” as the example. The dad on the show is Bennett James. Here’s the description of Mr. James from that ever popular site, Wikipedia.
Dog With a Blog – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Bennett James, played by Regan Burns, is Tyler and Chloe’s father and Avery’s step-father. He is a child psychologist(who basically has the mind of a child) who has his own book and tries to think of ways to get his kids to come together. He is also shown to be quite conceited. Sometimes, his wife thinks he got his psychology degree online, as his attempts at practicing psychology do not seem to go well. In the pilot, he introduces Stan to the blended family in hopes that the dog will help his children bond.”

Did you catch that? “Who basically has the mind of a child.”

How many times do we laugh at the dad on the show we are watching? What kind of impression do our children gain about the role of a dad from watching these shows?

Do I laugh at these shows? You bet. I’m part of the problem too. I’m also going to be part of the solution. What can we do? We can begin by setting a better example. Stop watching shows that tear people down. This applies to everything we watch. If you still have kids at home, of any age, do you watch shows with them that are inappropriate for their age? Some of you are saying, “Of course not. My spouse and I wait until they are in bed before we watch anything the kids shouldn’t see.” Hmm…That may be a place to begin the change in your home. It’s a place to begin in my own home.

I’ll admit to it. My wife and I were hooked on the ABC show Scandal for quite a while. We like shows that make us think. Twists and turns in the plot, and trying to determine who is doing what to who, are exciting and fun to try to unravel. But is the show appropriate? No. Flat out, no. I love the intrigue. The sex and violence are addictive though. And wrong. Would the show be as popular if the writers took out the sex and violence? Probably not.

So here is a challenge for you and me. Take a hard look at what images and stereotypes you are helping perpetuate when you turn on the box. I’m not advocating the extermination of the TV in your house. There is something beneficial with that action, but I don’t believe it is necessary to move forward and do better.

Let me know if you are taking up the challenge.

What actions will you take?

Share them in the comments below. Continue the conversation.

I’m a Man – Society’s Opinion

 

The expectations of society on men vary. One sector tells men to be “manly men” with a scruff of a beard, work boots, flannel shirts and dirty hands at the end of the work day. Another sector of society tells men to be “clean-cut” with a sharp suit, $300 shoes, the perfect coif, and a 9-5 job that is actually a 6-9 job full of fast paced business decisions and high-powered meetings. There are also sectors in society that tell men to be timid and reserved. Another sector tells men to be a “great dad”. Men are pulled many different ways. Every day.

 

My question for men is this: What should you be? Where do you find yourself falling on the “man spectrum”? Is there one perfect model of what you should be as a man?

My answer to the question is that there isn’t one single perfect place on this spectrum. God created us all as unique people. What society tells us to be, isn’t necessarily wrong, but it isn’t right either. I’m certain there are men in $3000 suits and men in work boots who are both following the path God has for them. What society thinks about each of these men can vary.

Do you have a stereotype in your mind when the slick looking business professional walks into your auto repair shop? Is it different from your stereotype of the man in work boots wearing the Carhartt overalls? Do you value one over the other?

 

Value. Usefulness. Worth. Importance.

Modern society, by which I mean the all invading modern marketing and media, places “value” on money. Often the value of a human revolves around how much income is created by and around an individual. A popular professional athlete is perceived to have a far greater reach when compared to a person with a four month old blog with nine subscribers. The athlete has a higher “value” in our society.

 

Do you have a high value in society? Do we fall prey to the marketing influences in our daily lives as we place values on individuals?

 

I’M A MAN!

Man Praying

 

Man. What is a man? What does God say about me as a man? What does society say I should be? What does my wife/kids/parents/siblings/friends/church say?

Over the next few weeks we’ll take a look at a few of these and try to determine where I am, where you are, and where we should be. Ladies don’t feel like you’re being left out. There will be great information for you too.

God calls me to be courageous, bold, daring and decisive. He made men to lead. Adam failed to lead Eve in the Garden. He didn’t step in when Satan deceived Eve. Men, are you stepping in? Women, are you encouraging your men to step in? Keep in mind that Adam was standing right next to Eve at the moment of The Fall.

Genesis 3:6 – “When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.” (NIV)

 

I believe God calls me to be a man after His own heart. God wants me to be righteous, pure, full of integrity, bold, courageous, gentle and caring. Teacher. Friend. Lover. Leader. Humble. Patient. Kind. Truthful. Discerning in all areas of life. On fire for the Gospel and willing to share the story of His son Jesus Christ. Provider. Example. Role model.

So I’m called to be all of those things. Can I be all of those things? Is it physically, emotionally, spiritually possible to be “all the things”?

I’m not sure. The positive upbeat “do anything” side of me says “Of course you can!” The other side of me (the realistic side?) says “Impossible. You can’t be perfect.” But, can I be some of these things? Can I be a little bit of ALL of these things?

I think it would be best for me to focus on what God calls me to be. Working toward what God has called me to be should lead me to be the best man possible for all of my roles in life. Thankfully He has already been working on me, molding me, to be the man He desires. He’s also cheering for me. He wants me to be successful! He wants me to become an inspiration for those around me to help them find their personal “awesome”!

I am called to be the team leader for my family. To inspire them, especially my children, to seek out their dream and to do all they can to live that dream.

A few of the steps I need to take to be the man God calls me to be:
1. Pray. Continually. With intent. Name the areas and tasks that need prayer and require growth on my part.

2. Time management. Purposely spend planned time with my wife, with my boys and with my friends. Pour into these people on purpose and with purpose.

3. Filling my own tank. Learning from and being poured into by others. Seek out key people to learn from each day.

 

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