“Excuses are doubts hiding in disguise.” – Bryan Hutchinson
What excuses are you (am I) using to hide from your dream? Let’s make a list.
- Not enough time.
- I don’t have any ideas.
- Not enough money.
- My Day Job gets in the way of my Dream Job.
- I have a family.
- I’m too old.
- I’m too young.
I don’t have any support from my family and/or friends.
Nice list. They all suck. You and I both know these excuses aren’t valid. You and I both know people who have used these excuses at one time or another, and at some point they overcame their excuse.
For me, excuses leave me on the couch. Usually they leave me on the couch watching TV. What a complete waste of time!! Please don’t get me wrong, TV can provide great entertainment. The problem I have with TV is the mindless hours spent simply watching whatever is on. As much as I love watching Jason Bourne in action, do I really need to see one of the Bourne movies for the 25th time? Probably not.
Here’s how I typically justify TV watching in my own mind. I get home from work at 8:30 on a Monday night. I’ve worked an 11 hour day. I’ve earned myself 3 hours of TV time. Surely I’m too tired and worn out mentally to do anything productive.
Or, how about a Saturday afternoon? Instead of working on a home repair, or going for a bike ride, I justify an afternoon of watching sports by telling myself I need a break. A break? A break from what???
Excuses, excuses, excuses. They run rampant in our lives (at least mine anyway).
So, as I bemoan the lack of available time to write a blog post, write a book, read a book, exercise to lose 40 pounds, spend time reading the Bible and praying, working on my side-hustle to create my Dream Job, etc, I need to remind myself of the quote at the start of this post. I need to think about why I doubt myself and my ability.
I also need to figure out who would be willing to hold me accountable for my actions (or lack of action).
The easy solution for accountability would be to make sure my wife and I are on the same page. I should be sharing my dreams and plans with her. She’s a part of the plan. She should be aware of my progress.
She may get sick of hounding me though. As much as she wants me to succeed, I’m sure she doesn’t want to create more tension in our house.
My suggestion? Find a group of like-minded people who are willing to call you out when you don’t hit the mark on progress toward your goal. They won’t put up with your excuses.
(In a future post I’ll spend some time on how to find these people.)
Do you have a set batch of excuses you use when you don’t accomplish things you want to? What are they? Please share in the comments.